The Best Advice

 The best my grandma gave me was to control what i can control. Its no specific situation that made her tell me that. She knows how hard I am on myself no matter the outcome is I'm just never satisfied and always have to keep getting better. So she just told me that I can only control what I do and not the outcome because it's never going be exactly what we wanted all the time. I and ever since then I'm still hard on myself , however i understand I don't need to stress over situations that are not in my control.